Life isn’t always great. We learn from our good and bad experiences. It helps us grow and makes us better people. Everyone learns from their mistakes, and sometimes you learn it the hard way.
Now I’m not saying that my marriage was a mistake. I’m sure everyone goes through all these emotional roller coasters during their marriage. I mean, is it really marriage if you don’t really get on each other’s nerves?
I got married, really young and I didn’t know what I was doing. We had an arranged marriage. It was basically like a blind date that was set up by our parents. We clicked right away. It’s always infatuation at the beginning that gets you strong. We both were head over heels for each other. He was just so cute, funny, and handsome that I couldn’t think of anything except him.
Our first year of marriage was full of bliss, the honeymoon stage, as many call it. We were so lovey-dovey, and I enjoyed being married. But once the children came in the picture and more responsibilities were added, things got a little stressful for me.
My husband handled everything pretty well, and still, he’s so calm even in the face of a storm. I am so lucky I married him because he is an awesome companion and a father. He is so supportive all the time. But I’m a woman, I have to be dramatic. Sometimes I have to say things just to get reassurance from him.
There are times when I’m like, I shouldn’t have married at 18. I should’ve explored the world instead. I should’ve gotten an education and then thought of marriage. His response is always that I was the best decision he ever made.
Sometimes children, school, responsibilities, etc., overwhelm me, and I just need some time to myself. If I had done all those things that I wanted to do, I would’ve probably never met my wonderful husband. I have two beautiful kids who are growing up, and I can’t imagine my life without them. I have done the second phase of my life before completing the ‘typical’ first phase, which is becoming successful and financially independent before having a family. In a way, I’m glad the way it worked out because I don’t have to worry about being an old mom or stressing about finding the right life partner.
There’s good in everything that happens, so always try to focus on the good and the positive aspect of life. The negative doesn’t get you anywhere, it brings you down, and it affects you physically and mentally.